Is this manipulation?

I feel like I’m a bad girlfriend seriously.

So I have been telling my bf about moving in together since we have been together 9 years. For months, he’s been putting excuses. It’s either he’s struggling financially or he’s starting his business. I was patient but the reason why I was also pressuring to do it was because he complained about our distance. We live about 1.5 hours away from eachother with traffic. 1 hour without. He has also complained that his friends have kids and we don’t. So I said “well that’s good but don’t you think we should have a place together”

Last month he financed a brand new car. It’s a pretty expensive car. Car payments are about $900. His business seemed to run great. Again he would complain how we barely saw each other and I brought up starting our lives together but he never seemed to take initiative. I couldn’t take initiative either because I need my partner to be there for me as well and see what we can BOTH afford together. I also wanted to discuss with him location. Should we get our place closer to his business or where? I also had to consider my job. If we got a place closer to his business then my commute to work would be a lot more drastic. I just felt like I wasn’t able to communicate these things without him getting mad about not seeing me often.

So I guess his business is now suffering. I think he is in debt and he is very stressed.

Now he tells me all “this money” was for us to do things together” but I don’t know what he is referring to if he’s the one who didn’t seem to care about living together. Then he says I didn’t want to but I was clearly the one wanting to live with him? Seems like manipulation to me? Help.

He also states I made him drink a lot of alcohol. Idk how I made him black out??