Bf wants me to focus on our family more

Had a conversation with my boyfriend about me going back to school after having baby #2 and he’s against the timing of it. he wants me to be able to enjoy being a mom and not having to worry about working and stuff. I’m afraid of being a sahm honestly because of my mental health and I’ve never allowed a man to lead which is wrong but I’ve never really seen it growing up it was always the women working and taking care of home. I have been so adamant about both of us working and getting our lives together he’s just trying to get me to breathe and focus on our family. I immediately started freaking out like anxiety went up. I got scared for some reason. I can’t figure out what made my anxiety go so high most women would love to hear that and for me I cried hearing it. I love being a mom it’s the so amazing to me but I’m afraid of my mental health not being stable enough to handle it 24/7. I’m thinking getting a wfh job but he wants me to relax a bit after the baby and allow him to be the man of the house. A lot of why I’m like this does go back to my childhood never seeing a man take lead in any house that I was in it was always the women .