My partner and I first started as FWB for a year. We've become more serious for 6 months now. Back then I didn't have to care about what he did for work. He still lives at home which is fine, times are tough. I'm 25 and a nurse. I recently moved back in with my parents to also save money and my job is closer to this side. We've been doing "long distance" ( only an hour away) for a few weeks. He's 27 and doesn't have a job. Hasn't worked in a few years. He said he has side hustles and stocks. He's pretty vague about it so I've learned not to ask questions. Yet I'm growing tired knowing there's no progress in his plan. He kept reassuring this job as a bus driver would be a quick process. It's turned into months of waiting for him to initiate the process and now he's waiting for some other stuff. I'm like why didn't you initiate the process how long ago. by now you could have been closer to something? He didn't go to school. He says he doesn't want to work under anyone for long. He wants to be his own boss yet he doesn't want to elaborate with me. It's kinda overwhelming because it doesn't feel like he could provide. I'm impatient. I have some love for him but I don't think it's enough to keep waiting around for him to make real change. We've had discussions in the past. I told him once I save up and have the opportunity for a home I'm taking it. He questions why he wouldn't be on the papers if he would be contributing to the mortgage. I'm like, you don't even have a job yet. You're worried about your name on the home but I'm the one working hard and would have saved up. Make it make sense! We're not getting any younger. Is this shallow of me to break up with him because he doesn't have a job?

Maybe there is hope that there is a job out there that can make someone their own boss without having a degree and still make good money?

I guess in the end financial stability is very important to me.