Is he lying???

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So I’m in a purely physical relationship with this guy, but I can’t help but feel that he’s kind of too affectionate and caring. He kisses me on the forehead constantly and kisses me on the lips just casually outside of sex (for example to say hello, goodbye, thank you or just when he feels like it ig). And it’s the “I care for you” kind of kiss, not the “I want you” kind of kiss. He’s also very cuddly, I think it’s adorable but this might also be some kind of love bombing (according to my friend, I don’t really know what love bombing is). He’s also affectionate in public like when we’re walking places he will hold my hand and kiss me and stuff. He does get really distant when we’re not together which I think is weird because of how he acts when we’re together (I told my friend about this and she said that it sounded like he’s love bombing me). I tried talking about another guy to see his reaction, I told him that the guy was nice and handsome but in the end he just wasn’t for me and he just asked “well what do I have that he doesn’t?” and I really don’t know what to think of that answer.

Update: So I’ve asked him previously if he would be open to being more than friends and he said “No, I don’t really think we have enough in common for it to work between us”. I don’t know if this is just en excuse because he’s scared to get too close to me (he has told me he used to be in an abusive relationship) or if he’s just looking for a polite way to say he doesn’t like me. Cuz it’s not true that we have nothing in common and I’ve told him that I used to love the things he’s into (mainly dnd and gaming) and would love to start again. I only took a brake because I struggled with some personal issues, but now that I’m better I’ve just been waiting for someone to play with. He just makes me so confused, I would love to have a proper relationship with him if that’s what he wants (he’s caring, funny, the sex is amazing, and he makes me feel really safe and respected) but it doesn’t seem like he knows what he wants. I feel like he’s lying when he says he doesn’t like me cuz he definitely doesn’t act as if we’re just friends. I want him to either brake things off with me (I would be sad but my anxiety would probably get better) or make things official cuz labels calm my brain.