Is it hard to be a single mother?

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Some background, I have no family, live in a different state then any of them do but I don’t have a relationship with any of them. I pretty much grew up in foster care. No I don’t receive any benefits from that. I work a full time job and I’m moving into my apartment in a couple of weeks. I’m also 5 weeks pregnant. I have a roommate situation now and I’m paying $900, all that is paid for on my own, as it should since it’s my responsibility. The father and I are together but live separate. He promised to help me move, but he called today saying he won’t be able to because he can’t take his dad’s car anymore. I’m not upset with him but he’s starting to show me inconsistency. It’s like I can’t count on him. Is being a single mom hard? I’m not gonna put him on child support but he already helps with absolutely nothing financially. He’s a great partner but financially he can’t offer me or baby anything. He is very in evolved and interested in the pregnancy though. It is all her ever wants to talk about. Yes he has a good job but he has a ton of bills so he can’t really help out other than maybe $200 every other month. That’s what he told me.
I’m not going to put him on child support, that would ruin our relationship. He would get really mad at me. I wouldn’t hurt him like that unless I get really really broke and genuinely need it and he refuses to help.

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It would ruin your relationship if you held him accountable for his child??? Girl…..🚩🚩

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Girl, don't be stupid with this. Put his ass on child support when baby gets here.

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Don't be naive. Put him on child support.

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I was a single mom from 17 and it is very hard. But I had alot of help and support from others. You should absolutely put him on child support, especially if he’s not going to be involved much. It’s his child too and he needs to help financially.

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It is his baby too. His responsibility. He is “telling you he wants to be involved” but is finding ways to be unreliable. He is showing you his true self, when people do this-believe them because he will not change. Put that man on child support and have him be responsible for that baby.

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I wouldn’t put him on child support either. But you have to stress to him that he is going to have to figure out how he can help more financially. He has a few months to get it together. The entire financial burden shouldn’t fall on you. You two figure out what works for you. If he’s already struggling financially child support would make that worse and then you would likely lose his support in general since you said he is involved. I’d make it the last resort if he doesn’t figure out a way. I know men who don’t contribute as much financially because they can’t and mom makes more but the pick up the slack else where such as transportation to and from school and daycare so mom doesn’t have to. I even know one who gets benefits for himself because he is low income and he gives most of it to the mother of his daughter because it’s all he has.

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Yes it’s hard! But put him on child support

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Child support 💯 otherwise you’re going to be resentful when he isn’t helping or not what he should be

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Yes. It’s difficult and expensive. Don’t be ridiculous. He needs to pay child support if he created a child.

Is it hard to be a single mother?

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