Thoughts?

My boyfriend and I are having financial issues, living in an overpopulated area, very hard to find work as you can imagine. I’m trying my hardest to apply as much as he is, mind you I’m in college as well. I just got an email from my job request stating I was denied the job, he instantly gets upset, (understandable, I’m upset too.)

But he just looks at me and goes “don’t talk to me.” And I get upset because, what did I personally do? And he just goes I’m stressed out.

My problem is, whenever there’s a problem whether in our relationship or lives, he always is the first to shut down and get stressed out, depressed or anxious. I don’t mind being there for him, that’s my job as his girlfriend.

But what upsets me is, I’m stressed out, depressed and anxious too. The only difference is, I always have to put those feelings aside in order to help his. Again, I usually don’t mind this but it’s the fact that whenever it’s my turn to feel those feelings, or to need support, he just tells me “please stop, your stress/depression/anxiety is causing me stress.”

So for a long time now I’ve kept those feelings to myself, whenever I feel those three emotions I just swallow it down, because I know I won’t have any support from him anyway. Today after he told me to not speak to him, I kinda blew up and said it to him. I said “you always get to be the depressed one, the anxious one, the stressed one, but I always have to be the strong one, no one’s ever there for me, what about me?”

He’s since calmed down after venting his feelings to me, which I half listened to and had just shrugged off because he completely ignored what I just said.