AITA : Brother In Law & Husband

Last night was a complete disaster for us . We were celebrating his cousin graduating. My husband and I go to his aunts house to join everyone. About 30 minutes into us being there he starts to get really short with me. Then proceeds to leave out the blue! I text him to ask if he’s okay… no response . About 15 minutes after my text message - he calls me.

“Everything isn’t okay . My brother called and said he was in trouble. I got to where he said he was and nobody but his friends were at the location. Then i asked if they’ve seen him & they thought i was there to fight. I go to leave and they broke the side mirror off the car.”

I said nothing because I’m already irritated that he keeps running to his brother every time he’s in some trouble. If you can’t tell, I do not like his older brother. He’s a deadbeat father, in/out of jobs, drug dealer, and always in SOME type of trouble. I have asked my husband before to stop trying to save him! He keeps retorting with , “ If it was your brother you would do the same” truth is - I WONT . If my brother repeatedly chooses to make dumb choices that gets him in trouble as a grown man - THATS ON HIM !!! I have a husband and a family to focus on.

He hadn’t returned back to the party so people start to ask me where he is . I tried to save face by saying “ Oh he’ll be right back “ , but his other cousin (my best friend) knew it wasn’t that simple . She asked me what was going on and I told her.

I’m so tired of asking my husband not to go trying to save his brother. It pisses me off that he does all of this for someone who couldn’t even give him a fraction in return! I hate to say it but if he wants to keep playing save a hoe with his brother, I’m not sticking around to watch the both of them go down playing in the streets!

Am i the asshole here ?