Potential Soulmate but one “small” Issue

Hey ladies,

Last year I finally left an abusive narcissistic relationship with our two children and have been focusing on us and healing/being happy.

A long standing male friend of mine (10 years of close friendship, always platonic) has recently turned romantic.

He is everything a women would want in a partner, emotional available, holds himself accountable, does anything just to see me smile, communicates amazingly even when I can’t, helps to heal my past traumas and gives me a loving space to work through them without judgement, loves me and my children fiercely and has always spoiled all of us. He works hard, has his life set up and just all around is an amazing person who all his friends and family adore. (And they’re all amazing people as well) He is the first to help those he loves and is very selfless. He also pulls his weight and more and when I’m failing he picks up the slack, doesn’t keep score and is just genuinely loving, open and supportive and does all those meaningful gestures to show how much he cares.

Since dating and spending more time together things have obviously turned to the bedroom (no sex as he wants to wait and doesn’t want to rush things) however he is small downstairs 😭

I know this seems so shallow as he ticks literally every other box, but sex and pleasure is personally a big thing for me in a relationship, I really enjoy sex (toys don’t do the same for me)

My previous relationship I settled for terrible kissing and not so great sex (he was selfish) and he wasn’t big either (5”) but at least had good girth and I had no trouble having orgasms.

But yeah it’s not that long (probably 6”) but very skinny. (I have been with a guy like this previously and I couldn’t feel anything as I get extremely wet easily)

Before things escalate further and towards sex I feel like I should call things off, which likely risks our long standing friendship and obviously hurt his feelings which I don’t want to do as he’ll wonder why I’ve suddenly been a bit off (he already noticed after last night and has tried to open a line of communication on what’s bothering me so he can help me)

But I am in my mid thirties and don’t want to waste these years sticking it out in a relationship that would otherwise be fulfilling but always missing that element and potentially missing out on the perfect partner, or if I’m better off just waiting for Mr. perfect that might never come 😅 (I should add I’ve been lucky enough to be genuinely in love with an amazing guy and we had an amazing sex life! 13 years together and sadly we were young and dumb and both made mistakes we couldn’t come back from) so I know it’s possible, but feel I’ve missed my opportunity?

I need some advice or voice of reason please. Maybe some perspective?