I met with a fertility specialist for the first time today and he made me feel so awful I left the clinic in tears. He spent the first 15 minutes of our visit telling me the reason I can’t get pregnant is because of my dangerous obesity and not my PCOS. I know I’m a bigger girl (256 lbs) but I haven’t had normal periods since I was a teen and skinny. He recommended weight loss surgery about 5 times during the appointment and wanted to send in a referral for me which I declined. Then he did my physical and ultrasound and I wasn’t aware of everything that would happen and he never told me so when I laid down i expected to feel the ultrasound wand but instead he put in a speculum and immediately did a cervical swab and never said a word to me during the physical exam. Then he left and I didn’t see him again for the rest of the appointment, just the nurses. The nurses talked to me about costs and all the bloodwork they wanted and then went really in depth about uterine cancer which freaked me out. I left feeling mentally, physically, and emotionally drained. I feel discouraged and having a baby feels even more impossible now 😭