I really don’t know anymore. I caught him cheating on me and I’ve been a crazy mess. And I think I am? Do I sound extremely rude? Narcissistic? He always brings up how he feels when I say how I felt when he cheated on me.

If you’ve been cheated on, you know how it feels-you can’t see them the same and I can’t talk to him in a mature manner. We are 23 but I may be embarrassing myself even more by showing this side of me. But I just want to hear it from people other than my ex. Am I really crazy? His brother’s gf used to abuse his brother, so when he tells me I’m rude, I don’t believe him. I never once laid a hand on him.

Even when I found all the evidence of him cheating, I didn’t raise my voice or anything. I’m looking for closure but I can never believe anything he says. He said I belittle him by speaking to him rude and constantly arguing, after I told him how I felt. I used to apologise then I ask myself why I am apologising. Now I just say cheating is abuse and he technically belittled me. I’m not going about it the right way, but he used to pick 1 small incident and use that against me.

I’m not in the right headspace. Please tell me how it is- am I just as bad as he is?