I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant with my first 🥳 and because it’s a high risk pregnancy, we decided to tell our parents asap.

In case it’s relevant, my partner and I are both 35.

Our mothers were the first to find out as we wanted them to find out at the same time. My mother hissed at me “you’re not, are you?” And apart from calling me up and screaming at me a few days later that it might have been nice to let her know earlier (I was 4 weeks; and had found out from the doctor earlier).

My partner’s mother has had a full meltdown that we “can’t have a baby in this house” and screamed that she “didn’t raise him to live like a slob”. This was because there were some weeds in the backyard, roughly the height of half of my knee (20-30cm). When I said I pay for a cleaner and a gardener to come in once a fortnight (I have a back injury and I get them to do the mowing; vacuuming; mopping; showers - harder tasks) she screamed that we “have trashed the house” and “the gardener doesn’t do a good enough job so should be fired”.

So then, with a week of all of this, we saw my partner’s dad yesterday.

We met for high tea. They asked if I wanted champagne. I declined, using the excuse that it was freezing and I would prefer a hot drink to warm me up.

He looks me dead in the eye, and in a somewhat hostile tone, goes “well when’s the baby due?”

I said “what? What baby?” Thinking partner would have mentioned if he’d told them? And his hostility was making me uncomfortable.

And he continued on his hostile approach “well you’re not drinking”. And I thought but I also didn’t drink after I had back surgery because of the pain meds etc.

I changed the subject, as did my partner.

He ignored me and asked me, still in the hostile tone, “whens the due date?” What sex is it?” And I tried to be light hearted and said “what sex?” And he just snapped and said “Of. Your. Baby.”

My partner asked him to drop it.

My partner then changed the subject again.

A little while later, my partner, out of the blue, goes “oh and by the way, you’re going to be grandparents.”

His dad snapped and said “that was a joke”. My partner said “well it’s not”.

And then his dad starts crying and goes oh but I was just trying to have a joke with you.

And just between my mothers hissing, his mother’s meltdown over weeds and then his dad’s hostility towards me (he is usually hostile towards me), for something that should be really exciting, I’m just devastated.

I can’t talk to my friends because at this stage they don’t know!

What a f***ing week. Actually more like ten days but still 😢