Back in February, a new guy started working the same place I do just in a different department. We and our other coworkers hang out occasionally outside of work and over the months I’d started having a crush on him.

We matched on hinge sometime in April or May, but he’d mentioned offhandedly that he doesn’t date coworkers. Everyone else we work with would constantly say that he likes me and we should date, but i never entertained the thought since we do work together.

In the beginning of July, he ended up kissing me and we’ve been hanging out on our own almost every night since then. We kiss and hold hands and do all kinds of coupley things. He also compliments me and is supers sweet all the time. I know he’s being genuine about it.

A few weeks ago I invited him to a movie and he asked me out to dinner beforehand. I couldn’t tell if it was a date or not. At this point I can’t tell if we’re dating or if we’re just coworkers/friends that kiss and flirt.

From what I can tell, he’s not actively on any dating apps at this point but i don’t want to make assumptions about what we are.

Would it be bad for me to ask him? If I do, I want to let him know that I’m okay with whatever the answer is but that I just want to know what his thoughts/plans are. I just don’t know if that’s weird to do and I don’t want him to get scared and assume that I’m asking just because I want us to be more.