Hey friends! First things first I am pregnant (18 weeks) and certainly have had my fair share of emotions and bouts of being unreasonable. Idk if it’s a factor but I wanted you to know I’m pregnant and please be honest and tell me if I’m being crazy 🤪

We got pregnant pretty quick but we roll with the punches haha! Anyways. It’s our first baby’s first birthday coming up this month. We have a large family, both sides. But we aren’t rich and we have a tiny apartment so we decided to hold the birthday at a rec center. The party room holds 50. It’s the law, fire code whatever. So a maximum of 50 is the rule. Fine. Again remember big family on both sides.

We split the invites (we take up 3 spots right away, so we can each invite 23, there’s one extra spot leftover for whoever it’s fine)

The invite clearly stated, we have a limit with space so rsvp it’s first come first serve and once we reach the limit we will let people know.

I made a list that fell into the number of 23 spots. My hubby sent the invites to EVERYONE on his side in excess of 40 people.

Everyone (except one) person on my side confirmed yes. On his side, people quickly confirmed and in 48 hrs we were at our limit. Here’s the issue….my hubby over invited like crazy and it seems like all the cousins with kids reserved their spots fast. My hubbys brother and sister and their spouses as well as his parents and one aunt that is considered immediate family did not confirm until 3 days after we reached our limit, 5 days after sending the invites to everyone.

I told hubby he has to figure this out - we can’t go over 50, it’s the city set limit on the room and there is a 3500 fine if you do break the law and we are not changing the venue to something bigger somewhere else on such short notice. I told hubby it’s on you to deal with that and tell them we can’t help you; we asked everyone to rsvp quickly and said space was limited. He told me I wasn’t being fair and is mad at some people who confirmed because “usually this person never goes to stuff” so I said well why did you invite them? These are your people, your side of invites. Why did you over invite? He was like “you should have assumed my family was coming and saved them a spot”. Now he wants to go over MY invites to see who really needs to be there and I said no absolutely not because you should have only sent out a certain number and prioritized the invites. He thinks I’m unreasonable. I think I’m fair.

Also this same group did the same thing for our wedding - we asked for rsvps because of covid rules at the time. They rsvp’d late, and not everyone could go and they were MAD. And the ones who were able to because there were a few spots left, were seated way in the back because our venue already had our final numbers and changed past a certain point were not happening. So literally his two siblings were eating dinner with the photographer at the back. But anyways please share your opinions on the bday!