I’m a clean freak that hates messes and needs to live in a tidy space in order to relax. My boyfriend is the exact opposite. He has no problem with mess and takes his sweet time when it comes to cleaning up. I always wondered why he was like that until I met his family. Both his parents are hoarders, they have two children living in the house and it looks like a tornado hit it. There is trash and food on the couch, spiders crawling everywhere, cobwebs in every corner, stains on every furniture and mouldy food in the fridge. When we visit his family I, as a guest, clean up after them because it looks so disgusting if I don’t. The dishes pile up and the trash falls outside the bin and no one does anything about it. I don’t know if I can change a man that grew up in a house like this with parents like that. I don’t want to live with him if he doesn’t change because I don’t want our future home to look like their house. I have talked to him before about his mess and that I want him to contribute more with the chores, but I have yet to see change in his behaviour.