Hi everyone,

I just moved to a new state with my husband and don’t have any close friends or family nearby.

I’m starting to really struggle emotionally with some feelings of resentment at our current situation (I would never ask him to change it as he is continuing his education in pursuit of his lifelong goals… I’m just frustrated by the way that we have to live and the constraints upon us in the meantime).

I NEED to talk or get my feelings out somehow so I can stop having so much pent up frustration and building resentment. I can’t say these things to him because he will just feel guilty for choosing to pursue his dreams, and I don’t want him to sacrifice his dreams just to make me more comfortable.

The problem is that I have no one to talk to in this new place. Even if I make new friends, I’m not the kind of person to spill relationship problems onto someone else unless we are exceptionally close. I just think that would embarrass my husband if he ever found out, and I won’t risk it.

I thought about journaling, but I’m scared that he will read it, and again, I can’t stand the thought of hurting him and making him feel guilty over circumstances I wouldn’t ask him to change. My grandma always told me to never put anything in writing if I didn’t want someone to read it. He’s a respectful person, but he’s human of course — therefore there’s a risk of him reading it if the curiosity is too strong one day. (We all do things we normally wouldn’t sometimes, so please don’t just say I should trust my husband not to read it, or he should respect my privacy enough to not read it.)

Does anyone know of any good alternatives? I just need to express these feelings without risking him getting hurt.