Don’t know how to leave

Jessie

I have a 9.5 month old son who I love and adore. I’ve been with my fiance for 3 years in November. Our relationship started off great, he bought a house, we moved in together about a year after being together. I knew at the time I didn’t know how well a house would work out with us though but I had just gotten out of a relationship less than a month before we started dating and my ex and I had a house. In march of 2023 I found out I was pregnant and everything went downhill. I was doing everything, cleaning the litter boxes, vacuuming, dishes, laundry all while working 40 hours a week.. I have told him how he needed to start helping out more around the house and he would call me annoying and a bitch because I expressed how I felt. Right then I knew I can’t be with him but I figured it would get better, and it has not. Not only does he not do any of those things (and if he does it’s VERY little), he doesn’t help with our son much. He sits on his phone and drinks beer and watches tv. I’ve told him that he needs to watch him better and he would give me attitude saying he just wants to relax and our son is driving him nuts. I’m so sick of being alone in everything, feeling like roommates, we don’t even sleep together and I noticed I was happier AT work than I was being at home. I don’t know who I am as a person anymore and it’s making me sad. I just want to up and leave at least for a couple of weeks to get my shit together and figure it out. Has anyone else been in this situation? Thinking about us not being together feels like a weight lifted off of my shoulders but also makes me sad. I also feel like he would gaslight me into staying with him if I try talking to him so I just want to leave him a note and walk out with our son. But I don’t know