UPDATE: I Am Leaving Him By End of Year

Mina

So, two months ago I came on this page to ask you ladies a question about my bf and if I should stay with him. If you want to read it, the thread I still on my page but it’s kind of a long story. To make it brief, After being with him for a year, he begged me to move on with him, I did in Dec 2023, found out in Feb 2024 he was cheating on me with a girl at his job, and I couldn’t leave because I had no job and no money at the time. I lost my job a month before I caught him. My bf begged me to stay and also swore he was sorry and it wouldn’t happen again, so I felt comfortable giving him a second chance as I really was in love and didn’t want to break up….wasn’t strong enough. Not to mention he would take me on many nice trips and dates so everything seemed like it was going to be ok. 6 goes by and he drops the bomb on me that he couldn’t guarantee me that he would marry me. Which is when I came to <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> app to share my story because I was completely blindsided by this, as he previously told everyone in our lives “he found the girl he is going to marry”.

The general consensus was that I should leave him and he is wasting my time. Since then, Two months have gone by and I now have a job but he is refusing to talk about marriage with his friends. They ask him when we’re getting engaged and he gets super defensive and even has said “don’t want to talk about it”. My heart is broken because I am accepting that he won’t marry me but I was lied to and misled for 1.5 years of this 2 year relationship and I just feel so terrible. I feel like nothing I do is good enough and he’s making me feel like I need to “earn” this ring and “prove” myself ……trust me I’ve done more than enough of that! My bf says I “won’t appreciate him” any

Pre once I get the ring. He’s now dangling this like a carrot and I’m over it.

I’m not expecting a proposal now but the way he is handling this is very telling and I can’t lie to myself anymore.

I’m just very sad right now and disappointed . Really not how I pictured life at 27 soon to be 28….while my friends are buying homes with their SO’s and getting engaged. Any advice for getting through this shitty experience ?

Thanks 🥹🙏🏽