Hey ladies, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months (we are both 39 and have a fairly healthy relationship), and I recently had a sexual experience, with him, that felt very different from anything I’ve experienced before. For context, I’m not very sexually experienced, and sex has always made me quite anxious. With my previous and only other partner, it hurt every time, and I just chalked it up to my inexperience and sex being new to me. That relationship ended after 2 years in 2022, as he turned out to be quite psychologically abusive.

But now, with my current partner, it felt so different — the most relaxed, fun, and connected I’ve ever been. It only hurt a little at first, and then really good. I felt completely safe, like we fit perfectly together. It’s making me wonder if this is how you know you’ve truly fallen in love with someone, and maybe they’ve fallen in love with you too. Has anyone else experienced this, and did it feel like a turning point in your relationship?