I have been getting so much flock from my mother since we made the decision, and she has eluded most of her family won’t come because of the decision.

To specify, the dress code is semi formal, but we stated as long as guests to avoid jeans, or clothes with holes, we didn’t care what they wore.

As far as children, none under 18 unless the parent asked. So far we have two children allowed, a 13 year old and a baby from my fiancés side (his brother and fiance are in the wedding and there is no one to watch the baby as all family will be there and they are 3 hours away)

I have had one person from my mom side upset because her husband is a farmer and says “if it’s good enough to work in it’s good enough for them” and asked if he could wear black jeans. I said yes of course that’s fine and she said “oh”

However my mom tells me her family is very offended by the dress code as they believe I targeted them and think they wouldn’t dress nice. I pointed out to my mom that there’s only my dad’s side and my fiancés side.

She also claims they think it doesn’t make sense because we aren’t having a fancy venue (it is a local event hall, but we changed it so her family could attend) and that it was rude to have a dress code. I told her that this the norm now a days.

She says they are also mad because it’s childfree and they don’t have babysitters. I told her that’s why we sent invites 3 month before the wedding and had it on our website that we had on the save the dates, so they had plenty of time to get one!

As I sad, she has heavily eluded her side will not attend, but my fiance and I have told her that everyone we really want will be there, and we wanted a smaller wedding anyway.

But the biggest thing she has said that bugs me is the wedding is for the guests, not us. It doesn’t matter if we want the dress code or no kids, what matters is the guests are happy.

Is she really right? Should I change stuff?