We had sex on 12th Aug and nothing since then. Also he was away on work trip for 11 months and we had sex few times after he came back and that was in July. It was very akward for me because I was really not feelingthe connection but I didn't say anything. It has always been this way. We were in live in relationshipand would not have sex months at end. And I thought things mind change after getting married. But he only has sex when he wants it. I am not even aroused enough and its painful. I get no hugs or kiss from him on a daily basis. He shows more affection to our dog and cuddles with the dog when he sleeps. I am fed up and think of escaping all this a lot. Sometimes I feel I need to hug another human and not even romantically just a touch warmth. Anything. We are only 33 yo. Been together 9 years.