Ready to mingle but torn between the two.

I've been single for a while now and feel as if I am ready for a relationship. On the other hand, I've been extremely busy and too caught up in work, to the point of me not being able to put myself out there. I've been communicating with a few guys and many guys have showed interest in me but, I let my work and busy schedule take over. Some may say that I work too hard but need to slow down but, many do not understand my reason for working hard. I want to be independent, not let a man provide for me unnecessarily and I want to be able to accomplish my goals and dreams. Additionally, my coworkers think I should focus on starting a family and be married but, I've been in a situation which causes me to be so afraid of falling in love again. Overall, I want to be loved and to love but, I am scared of getting hurt again, which is why I put work above relationships and dating.