Domestic violence question
If he physically hurts you once will he do it again?
Hes 34 im 28 we have been together for a year and few months we live with his family. Our situation has gradually gotten worse first hed burp in my face, hed make me pay more than half of our activities together, i remember our very first Christmas together which was last year i made him excited for his present then we had a conversationa about how he would take me shopping if i got him a really expensive collectible item for $400, time came and he said oh i didnt say that and plus i dont have a lot of money rn. i said its okay don't worry i then said what will you get me he then said idk what do you want? remember baby i dont have a lot of money rn either. Through the beginning hed call me little names like the r word, stupid, idiot and what not, hed tell me to stop asking so many questions, after a while of no questions i just started to speak my mind thinking this would settle his mind because it wasnt asking questions but now he tells me he cant focus on his phone while hes scrolling through youtube while i talk to him or out loud to the. When i do mind my business he looks at me and says why cant you be in the middle or why are you so quiet. If i tell him my plans he will say no planning i dont wanna know dont tell me i dont care. When i walk about my feelings he says i dont care. He will give me a disappointed look like can you stop talking. A few months ago we were arguing coming out of a drive thru he was upset because i like too many sauces and because i was asking him about what we were gonna do the next day. We then went home and he ran out back because he said he needed to get away from me for a decond. Then i told him im sorry i feel like if i say anything i upset you its like i cant be myself around you. He got upset and punched a tree in the back. His hand was then broken for a month he was off of work. He blames me and says its all your fault. If you didnt do this this wouldn't have happened its your fault he says when he looks at me i want to cry. A few days ago he was hiding his phone so i got paranoid and went through his instagram at 4 am and saw that he was still on tinder a week after our relationship had formed messaging a girl saying hey its me from tinder and i woke him up and asked him whats this? he flipped out and started beating a house object and i grabbed him to make him stop hurting himself and unfortunately his arm got strained. Now he blames me for his arm being hurt too. After that happened he woke up his whole house and they were like whats going on. He told them. Then he walked out front and i followed. He started saying i dont even know how that got there i wasnt talking or on tinder after we got together and i didnt even message her back either after that one i stopped. I said okay okay. He said i cant be with you if we cant trust each other he said we need to work on this. Then i was saying okay okay and he yelled and said more things like you evil effing b word, he said you stupid and a few more things after that. Then i got scared and said okay im gonna leave i cant do this being as loud as him and then he told me to calm down get inside stop being loud as hes yelling at me on his front porch then he like pushes me front and knocks me down by tripping me from the back i fell pretty hard and he gets in my face and shouts at me more. I kept trying to hug him while i was crying saying im sorry im sorry but he kept pushing me off a few times hed shove me. I was just so emotional. We then sat on a wall and i was about to fall down being distraught and he said common lets go down and as he was putting his foot off he he kicked me in the tummy a little. He said sorry sorry but i felt the anger the anger in his foot. That day i had back pain at work. I told my work and i couldn't work the whole day. I left early. He also spat on me while he was upset during this stuff forgot to say. He makes jokes about killing me. Today he made a coffin joke saying its because. he gets mad if i ask him abything or anything. He hates me sometimes i feel. I feel hes only with me because im all he can get. He doesnt like to touch me or kiss me or make out too much he says stop kissing me so much when I just give him face loves. He isnt cheating. He doenst let me leave really much anymore too. If i go he says youre leaving me. He gets mad and says if you do that ill go without you. Hes the lonesome wolf type and he used to get bullied for stuff like weight and stuff in the past how can i help him love him? How can i make him see me? How can i keep his love? Im his first love. I want him to be my last love. I dont want to fail him. Im his first love we have so many memories so many plans how do i save them? My words dont seem to be working, neither are my tears, neither is anything. Ive tried to talk to him multiple times and it ends up in him angry at me or telling me im annoying him or disturbing his peace time. I cook for this man, i clean for him, i buy him things i take care of his family. What am i doing wrong? Is something wrong with me? This is my 3rd serious relationship idk what to think or do. Sometimes when im around him ill shake in fear and ive been telling him lately im scared of you. He gets mad at any questions or any statments its like he hates me he doenst want me to be anywhere else but with him. Im so sad all i want is to be heard and loved. Its like the person he was he isnt anymore. He Embaresses me in front of his friends by saying do it like his friends gf aim like her right in front of them his friend doesnt embarrass his gf like that. It hurts watching them because my bf isnt like that hes mean. One time his friends took a pano pic and my face looked like i had just woken up just like everyone else there and they laughed so hard at my face showign everyone. I felt so bad inside so i decided to say to my bf whats wrong w my face ahhh i wish i could fix it my bf then said idk surgery and laughed. I cried a little away from everyone in the car but didnt let anyone know and quickly moved on from that. I think he can tell im distancing myself because right now hes being lovable idk what to do will update on 10/29/2024 on this post thanks sorry its so scattered my head is so hazy somedays i cant even remember some things and he gets mad at me and says see i hate when you cant listen to anything. I think he hates me secretly why would anyone that loves you treat you like this? Or am i wrong and hes misunderstood? Plz help sorry i feel very bad lately
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