is this abnormal?

I feel like my dad is estranged because he is in a verbally abusive relationship (my mom verbally abuses him) to the point where he isolates himself. he keeps on arguing and raising his voice at me over things that are weird. this morning he was arguing with me because he is going to visit my brother's grave and my uncles and aunts in the afternoon. I found out this morning, and had already made plans with other people for today. I told him I am sorry but I made plans already for today and just found out from you about these happenings this morning. he started getting upset and started saying that he is visiting my brother for "all souls day." I don't celebrate this holiday. he started raising his voice and telling me that I am 30 years old and always am missing these important dates. I am like wtf I just found out about this now and I always celebrate your birthday. then he said, "when I die, I want to know when you will visit me?" I was like I will visit sometimes, maybe on holidays. he said "what holidays?" I told him the US holidays. then he started getting angry and asking exactly what holidays. so I just got up and left. i feel like this is abnormal, what do you think? hopefully I am not in the wrong here