Is this abuse

Long story short, my husbands dad passed away due to cancer 10 years ago and my husband has suffered severely with his mental health since, specifically in november which is the anniversary of his passing. So every year he gets really nasty and pushes me away (to the point that ive had to move myself and our kids into my parents for a healthier environment). This year he is especially horrible, and im really struggling to cope with it. Hes taken it to the extent of wiping bogeys on me and like forcing them in my face and mouth. His dad passed before he met me. I dont know how much longer i can tolerate this behavior. Help!