Finding out that my kid that I thought was my good kid was doing the most

Both my kids are adults. My daughter is 25 and my son is 23. He's graduating this semester from college. In their adolescent years my son and I were closer because he in my eyes was the perfect well behaved baby angel. My daughter was a problem child and continuously got in trouble. Got arrested. Was getting drunk. She made my life hell. There was a point where I sent her to live with her dad because I didn't know what to do with her anymore. Funny thing is as adults I feel I'm closer to her than my son. My son never got in trouble. He was so well behaved and perfect. Now finding out that that was all bullshit. He did this tick tock trend with me where you say "We listen. We don't judge" and they tell you something I didn't know before. It started with him saying he used to steal me and his father's alcohol by pouring a little bit of everything into a bottle and filling the rest up with water. Me and my ex husband didn't really drink so we never noticed. I didn't even knowy son drank before college. I said "Okay". He goes "We listen. We don't judge. I used to throw parties in the house when you and dad weren't in town!" That one also threw me off. He says again we listen we don't judge and asked how old I think he was when he lost his virginity. I assumed he lost it in college. He told me 14! He said "Mom. You don't know this. I was huge fuckboy in high school. I stuck it everything." I just had my mouth open. He said he also did it on me and his father's bed during his parties. He again goes "We listen we don't judge. I didn't start experimenting with my sexuality in college. I started sophomore year with Devin." Devin was an old best friend. Who allowed to spend the night ... I knew my son was experimenting in college. Never knew he was doing anything sexual in high school. He says "Told you I stuck it in everything."

I regret that trend. I wish I could have died not knowing anything he did as a child because I thought he was the good one.

@Emily relationship with my children kids is not your relationship with your mom. I wasn't out treating my daughter like shit and giving my son everything. We were closer because he was having (from what I knew) less behavioral. With my daughter, it wasn't just drinking and getting in trouble. There were bullying issues where a girl moved schools because my daughter was bullying her(they're on good terms now). There were legitimate things my daughter was doing both morally and legally that I was upset about. To say you're surprised she talks to me? I wasn't abusing my daughter. I was holding her accountable for the things she was doing and no one knew my son was out doing all that. Not even my daughter because she saw it on his tick tock she called me laughing saying she can't believe her goodie two shows brother had a bad side. Me and my daughter hang out every week. She's my best friend. She even thanks me for sending her with her dad because had I not she was gonna end up in jail. We are so close now. Me and my daughter even bond over the stories of all she put me through in her teen years.