Am I wrong for feeling some kind of way?

I’ve been with my boyfriend two years. He told me recently that sex is about control for him. Which I didn’t think was a big deal because I thought he had meant like BDSM type of thing. He wants me to do whatever he says during sex so I figured that. But I wonder if it’s, like… more ?? Like just… general control over our sex life?? Idk. Maybe I’m overreacting. But. It just feels like lately if I try to tell him I’m in the mood, send nudes, etc., he kinda just brushes it off. Like earlier, I sent him a nude and he said “good girl” but then followed up by talking about how bad of a day he’s had. (🙄). The other morning, I tried to text him and ask if we could dirty talk so I could get off to it. He was like “are you asking for nudes? Idk about that. I slept like shit again (he does EVERY night!!!) and I feel congested”. I just was like “ok then dude whatever”. But then whenever he gets in the mood, he’ll beg me to come over, dirty talks me a shit ton, wants/sends nudes, etc. it just annoys me because it feels like he’ll (basically) reject me all together unless he wants to fuck. But then if he wants me he expects me to do whatever he wants. And that’s not really the “control” I was hoping he meant. When he did that earlier, I got annoyed and he was like “why are you being weird?” But this happens ALL. THE. TIME. I know people will say “talk to him” but if he wants control I don’t think he’ll admit to any of this.