Silent treatment

I've made multiple posts about my husband and all his activities making me a stay at home mom feeling exhausted fatigued and alone. Yesterday after my husband had made a dentist appointment for that evening I simply said I was frustrated with life in a text message. That proceeded then to be given the silent treatment.

I texted him later to leave me a specific credit card for groceries. He didn't respond. I than said I had a gift card to get new gym shoes and tomorrow night I will have dinner for him and the kids but I'm going shopping alone. He didn't respond.

He wouldn't even talk to me in our home.

It's hard enough feeling so overwhelmed by children and the constantness of waking up at night the fighting and the routine. To feel isolated and unloved it breaks me.

I've talked briefly to my mom one time about the silent treatment when something doesn't go my husband's way how it can go on for weeks. She was shocked she said it was a form of abuse. I don't want to mention it to her again as she gets so worried about me and they are financially helping our family right now and if I mention how bad things are I don't want them to hate him as I have no plans on leaving.

I grew up very abused and this is very different from that experience so to me it isn't abuse but I feel so alone.

He does this every few months and I am so sad.

The point is how do I make improvements and resolve the problems. I'm definitely a person that thinks everything is fixable. I don't believe everything is bad enough to throw in a towel. I can only control myself and my happiness. How can I make the positive changes for myself.

***Thanks for the constructive response.

As someone who was extremely abused child as an adult I don't trust my own thinking. I don't trust my own judgement. It isn't something I do with comfort. I tear myself down and think I'm crazy even though others tell me I'm not. I have been in therapy for that. Also I do have a job. I work part time and have education as well as I'm a stay at home mom. Truth is I also am very ill so my family helps me with medical costs. I wouldn't be able to afford my children and myself on my own.

I come to the Internet because I don't believe in dragging my family into my marriage and I lack confidence. My friends are his friends and that has caused issues with people getting sides taken and it isn't something I want to do. Again because of my background I believe in protecting even people are not kind to me. I have low standards and I see the good in everything. I really value the opinions of a bystander who can give me actual tangible advice.

Please handle those who you do not know like you would as a friend instead of tearing down a stranger. You never know what someone is going through or their past. I don't talk much about my abuse but it does affect most of my decisions I have learned through therapy.

***No my husband doesn't cheat and no I don't have an eating disorder...yikes hope that person gets some help that sounds dire.