Don’t Settle

Last night at 11pm my 8 year old came into the room I was sleeping in with my 4 year old. Told me he had thrown up all over his bed, and he still felt sick, then proceeded to throw up all over the floor in the room I was in. I’m 36 weeks pregnant with twins, so cleaning puke out of carpets and putting sheets on bunk beds in the middle of the night isn’t something I’m going to be doing.

I woke my husband up, he jumped out of bed, and got to work. He cleaned the bunk bed, changed the sheets got the carpet cleaned up, started the washer, got new pillows and a bedside puke bucket, while I hosed off my 8 year old in the shower, got him dressed and relocated him to another bedroom. He asked that I stay with him, so my husband went back to bed and I stayed in the recliner with him in the room while he watched TV. We both fell asleep.

I woke up about 3 hours later, and moved from the chair and back to my bed. At 4am I woke up to pee and my 8 year old came looking for me, he told me he just filled the bucket and wanted me to come back to that room to stay with him. We stayed there till 6 when we heard my husband get up and go downstairs. Hubs came back upstairs and cleaned the bucket while I got our kid settled with a drink and a blanket on the couch.

He picked up breakfast, and played cars and super hero’s and kept our 4 year old busy, stopping to clean the bucket when needed while I grocery shopped, paid some bills, did some errands, (all online from the couch, your girls too pregnant to be that physical) and kept the 8 year old comfortable. It’s noon and I’m laying down to nap while my husband hangs out with the kids. When I get up, he’ll go pick up the grocery order, carry it all in and help me put it away.

The moral of the story here is, if he wanted to, he would. He’d get up and clean puke, he’d do the laundry, he’d make the beds, he’d let you nap, he’s pick up and put away the groceries, he’d do it because he loves you, and those kids are his to, and that house is his too, that food is for him too and he has respect for his family.

Stop settling for these losers who aren’t even a fan, let alone working on the same team. You and your kids deserve better and no matter what he says, there are men who would want you, and who do it, without complaining.