I hate arguments

Last night my husband broke a dish on accident. No big deal. I helped him vacuum and clean it up. This morning I didn’t let the girls step into the kitchen because I hadn’t wiped it with water and a towel yet. I’m usually the one who does it to make sure any tiny shards where not missed. So I put both of them in their chairs. My 3YO’s chair was all the way next to the wall facing toward the livingroom so when I put her in it I simply turned the chair facing the kitchen table. I began to wipe up where I could visibly see tiny bits of ceramic right in the entry way to the dining room . I thought and hoped that my husband hadn’t been walking there this morning tracking things around and getting it in his skin. I wiped there first, then under 3YO high chair, infront of the cupboard. Until the whole area parallel to the carpet was wiped. Then I started under baby’s high chair and then under the kitchen table until the whole dining room was wiped. When hubby came out of the bathroom talking I was about to tell him that I wiped the dining room but hadn’t wiped the kitchen floor yet. He said not to let the girls walk in the kitchen and I said that I already told our oldest and that I put her up in her chair so I could wipe the floor. And he asked in a concerned and accusatory voice if I had moved her table(high chair). And I said no I didn’t move her chair, that it was next to the wall and that I started right “there” pointing to the spot trying to tell him I started in the place where I visibly saw glass. He then said, “so you moved her table… so you cleaned under her table.” I said no that I hadn’t moved her table but I did also clean under it. He seemed very concerned about where the table WAS because as he explained he had put the table over the area where he saw tiny pieces as to prevent us from walking on it. He told me that I moved the table. And I told him that I moved the trashcan and the glass was “here” gesturing to the area and told him and the table was there. I tried to tell him that I had wiped the whole area “there” near the carpet first and had finished the whole dining area. But he kept on with the table. He yelled so loud and blew it way out of proportion. He blamed me for moving the table(high chair) that I did not move. He blamed me for causing him to yell. Blamed me for arguing with him about the table. I just wanted him to know that I wiped up the pieces since he’s always the one saying he has glass in his toe or foot. It was a loud argument with mostly him yelling at me about how I turned something so small and unimportant into a big argument. I just wanted him to say thank you. He said “I did say thank you and you wanted to argue about the table!” He said “This isn’t about you being right. This is about, you should agree with your husband to prevent me from getting loud in front of the kids. You didn’t have to be right.” I wanted to tell him that I didn’t want to be right. I just wanted to be understood. But I didn’t say that (to prevent him from yelling more). But anytime I try to explain myself he thinks I’m being defensive. When arguments like this happen it catches me way off guard. Like WTF. I didn’t try to argue.

Update for clarification: the broken dish happened right as I was doing bedtime with the little ones (1 and 3). Teeth brushing, getting books out, going potty, etc. he doesn’t do bedtime. It usually takes and hour after lights out for both of them to fall asleep and be in or moved to their beds. When I came out I kinda forgot about the dish. It’s usually together time, sex and help my husband fall asleep after LO bedtime.

I didn’t move the chair from where he said he had placed it. Yes I turned it but I did not move it from point A to point B. Yes we should have cleaned it up that night. I honestly forgot after kids bedtime. There was a general sweep but not a deep clean that night. The next morning I did NOT let the LO step into the kitchen.

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