how often do you tell your bf when you are sad and need support?

Question

my boyfriend has autism and we do not live together bc he lives with his family. I am going through verbal abuse, a chronic illness that makes me nauseous for , and now depression. the depression and sickness is getting to me and is now affecting my work where I feel so overwhelmed. how often should I tell my bf I am sad and need support? I feel like I've been needing it almost every other day and do not want to make him feel drained

Answer

There's nothing wrong with talking to your partner about your emotions. Never telling your partner your feelings is unrealistic and unhealthy. Now ALWAYS dumping your problems on them or expecting them to fix your problems isn't ok. You can't rely on others to make you happy. You ultimately need therapy to learn how to cope with your problems.

Answer

I don’t tell my husband the same problems over and over again, but if there’s a change in how I’m feeling (good or bad) I tell him. He’s also able to tell me in a respectful way if I’m being too much. Like the other comments said, it’s not your partners responsibility to fix your problems or take them on. You need to do that on your own. It’s ok to talk about how you feel, but being repetitive or dumping these emotions on him isn’t fair.

Answer

Never. I go to therapy and work on my problems with a professional. It’s no one else’s burden to carry but mine, and I need the tools to do that independently. It’s my responsibility to care for my mental health.

how often do you tell your bf when you are sad and need support?

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