How do you get your sexual needs met without compromising your body?

Hi all,

So it’s been a few months and I haven’t had sex like that. The most recent sex was with a man that I was casually dating last year, but I ended it bc he was always, “busy”.

We had sex the other day, but it was very mediocre/ high school ish… I’ve come to the conclusion that this is not a man that I would want to be in a relationship with d/t his lack of availability and I’m not too sure if he have a gf… as he recently asked me if I’m into women.

Well anyways, I’m in my late twenties and I’m kind of over the whole hook ups/ sneaky links/ fwbs, etc.

I want a bf, but with dating these days everything is so centered around sex.

I’m not necessarily too opposed to a fwb, but the problem with that is if I meet a random man and tell him I want a fwb, there will be no friendship portion, but all benefits.

I am dating one of my guy friends and with him I can see myself being sexual, but he also doesn’t want a gf atm. So I don’t want to put my emotions ima compromising situation.

My other guy friend likes me and I’m emotionally attracted to him, but physically I think he’s unattractive.

I’m ok with not having sex, but sometimes I get lonely and want a companion… but I also want to be safe.

I’m not into toys either…

Is there a way to go about this? What have you’ve done?