Feeling unappreciated

I don’t know if it’s just my hormones in the 3rd trimester but I’ve been feeling very down. Today my husband made a comment about how he does everything I ask him to do and I just exploded! I replied but I have to ask! The smallest things can trigger me like him not taking out the garbage until it’s overfilling and I “have to ask”. I’m just so tired. He gets to work out and comes home gets a relaxing shower or two! He then goes to work and when he drops the kids to school that’s helping me. My goodness I sound like a complainer! I’m a SHAM but I do everything from physical king getting the kids lunches, bags, doing homework, laundry, dinner etc…. Along with all the mental load and mental notes I have to keep track of. I’m just so tired and when I talk to him it turns into an argument that I just want to avoid. When he sees me upset he comments well if you weren’t wrong then you wouldn’t be upset. Like I’m always being gaslit, I feel so unappreciated, stupid and hopeless 😞