sex drive

alright ladies. i have a low sex drive. and there are many factors that decrease my drive also. For example my man sleeping all the while i.am working my ass off around the house. me asking him to do something multiple times and it never happens and i feel like im begging. it just pisses me off and i dont even want to look at him. im constantly the one trying to manage EVERYTHING all while being the only one in the hkuse supporting us financially. and his argument is that he gets depressed because i dont touch him and dont dirty talk (which i find very awkward and feel like im awful at and never knkw what to day) and that i dont engage him outside of the act of sex. he stopped initiating years ago because i never initiated. and its only getting worse. like yesterday and today are my off days. i cleaned the kitchen did a weeks worth of dishes ive washed laubdry i sorted two to 3 weeks worth of laundry (we have 3 kids) i cleaned the living room swept and mopped i cleaned the litter box bathed all 3 kids and cooked all the meals and all he has done to help was get the crockpot off the top cabinet for.me..........would you want anything sexual to do with your partner if you were me? or am i in the wrong??? advice? i do want to be more sexual for him. but i dont know how when im always frustrated at him and feeling alone. seems more like roommates these days...