My boyfriend’s parents hate me

I need help!! Long story alert :)

The parents and also the whole family of him (he has a younger sister of 19 and a younger brother of 25) disrespect me, I’m a girl with anxiety and an overthinker so during this 6and half years I’ve always tried to avoid any conflict and I behaved and treated the way I wanna be treated as a future wife of the family (no we’re not even engagaed yet!)

He’s caring, supportive, lovely, sweet, smart, sexy. he’s all in one he’s perfect our relationship WAS perfect the kind everyone dies for.

I saw the signs from the first year so because of that I told him I don’t wanna get married in our country after immigrating to Italy we will get married and stuff, because I didn’t want to have any interacion with such maniacs as in laws!

I met him when I was 22 and he was 24, now we’re 28and 30! His mom doesn’t have a great relationships with her husband (they live in a house but sleeps seprately!) and my boyfriend is the first born and naturally she’s in love with him, she loves him the most and even tells this in front of the other 2 children of hers!

She’s obsessive, possessive and controlling when we go on a date ( I live in Iran and moving on together as partners with out getting married is not commen) she calls him million times, every time we decide to go on trip or have a sleep over she cancels it somehow.

His father is very disrespectful of me he insults me eventhough he knows I’m aware of that situation.

I had a huge fight with his brother over his toxic girlfriend that wanted to ruin my relationship over past 3years!

I’m walking you guys through my situation so you can picture it!

To make story short, last week my boyfriend made a pocket call at first I wanted to hang up but I heared his mom and his sister talking to him. They were telling him “ain’t you tired of your girlfriend?? Don’t you wanna find a new one?? How about that other girl??” And the sister mentioned a name 3times :)

To be honest he didn’t answer any of their questions and said why should I be tired of her, am I tired of you guys after 30years??

Also you sould know that living with your parents till 40 is very commen in Iran he lives with his parents.

I was shocked, He picked the phone up and said how much did yoy hear??? And I said all of it, who the hell is that girl??? And he said they were just horsing around.

But I don’t think so I took it personally, I’m hurt and I feel betrayed by them, I did nothing wrong I mean I tried my best to be the best (I’m not an angel I know it myself!!) but at the end they act like this.

From that day on I didn’t even talk to him and he didn’t even try, our mutual friends tried to make us up but I couldn’t even look into his eyes, I can’t believe I don’t wanna look at the person I wanna die for !

It’s on him right?? I went to Italy and came back last year I got B2 Italian certification and got there and came back for him but he’s still immobile :)

Personally I blame him that let his family talks behind my back like that and he doesn’t do anything for leaving them sooner.

I wanna brake up bc I can’t wait till I’m 40 for him to do sth!!! I love him the most but I can’t go on like this not after hearing that doomed phone call.

But my friends says I’m wrong It’s not his fault.

What do you guys think?? What should I do??