So we’ve been married since 2018. Been together since 2014. We have two kids, one with special needs. My husband works *constantly*. Weeks straight. He’s at work before the sun rises and doesn’t get back til at night. He’s also in the reserves and has a 6 month deployment coming up in the fall over the holidays. Next month he’s going to be gone for 2.5 weeks as well. He’s just never home. I’m doing 100% of everything for our kids and home. He quite literally does nothing except comes home, eats, and goes to bed.

He’s not a bad man. He’s good to us. But he’s just never home. The other night he was doing our taxes or something and he genuinely asked me to “double check” if he had the kids’ birthdays correct. He’s just so uninvolved because all of his energy and focus goes into work. It doesn’t help that we live hundreds of miles away from our family and friends because of this work, so I quite literally have no one here.

Yesterday I had to take my kids to an allergist appointment. The nurses were annoyed I had my kids with too and the doctor literally asked me “would you like to reschedule when you have childcare?” Man, I don’t have childcare.

Next week my 2 year old has his first dentist appointment. They told me I can’t bring my other child. So I literally have to cancel and he can’t go until I can find a dentist that will allow me to bring both kids.

I’m just so frustrated. My husband knows all this but he tells me there’s nothing he can do and it’s either he works or we don’t have money. But we don’t even have a lot of money lol.