So my brother and his ex (of 6 years) broke up last August. They’ve continued living together in his house. Whatever it’s their deal. When they made it official official in September and he came over my house upset. Completely depressed. I hugged him while he cried. Broke my heart. Then they made some weird agreement about living together through the holidays so neither of them were “alone”. Again, they’re own thing. None of my business.

She was supposed to move in with her brother in January. Gave some reason she couldn’t. Like she was going to miss him too much. So then it was February. Then it was March. Then over the weekend she went completely crazy on him and he had to call the cops on her but she ran out before they got there. I made a post about it. My husband had to go over. Then while DH was over she came back with her mom to get her stuff. She only took enough clothes for a week. Why not just take everything? All the furniture is my brother’s so there’s not much of hers there.

My brother came over my house again and I held him while he cried. Said he was trying to do the right thing. That he tried everything he could and didn’t know what else to do. I told him to change the locks. He said he couldn’t legally do it till he file to evict her (per the suggestion of the police).

After he left my house I guess she came back and they talked. He tried to get her to stay the night so she’s have somewhere. Which is completely crazy to me. He told my husband about it yesterday at Easter dinner. My husband told him

He needs to just cut ties with her. File the eviction notice. Nothing good is gonna come from any of this. Now my brother is like “well… maybe I don’t have to do that. She seems to understand now.” Which we’ve heard this all before since September.

So I’m to the point that it’s like this. It’s none of my business but I’m tired of hearing about it. I’m tired of him asking for advice and not taking it. I’m tired of holding him while he cries and breaking my heart watching it. I’m not at all trying to be selfish while he’s going through something so difficult but it’s draining to be supportive. It’s like the saying “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome.”

Her parents don’t want her to come home and her brother keeps finding reasons he can’t move so she can go live with him. No one wants to deal with her. It’s so sad. Truly truly. Now I don’t want to deal with any of it.