Husband scares me need advice

Morning ladies, just a lil back story my husband just started a new job and I am at home with the kids, we have a very loving marriage, together for 10 years and had a really good night last night...if you know what i mean... this morning when getting ready, we had a mini argument because I asked him to help me as my husband I dont want to ask anyone else because this is important to me financially, he then went on saying its not rocket science blah blah and all I do is complain so I just made a snarky stupid comment saying "id rather be a sidechick than a wife who nags all day then" for the life of me I wish i never said that because he started screaming at me bursting out into tears saying I hurt him with my words and he wish I was supportive and I dont make anything pleasant for him and each time i try to speak or get a word in he keeps crying louder ON THE FLOOR like an actual baby throwing a tantrum, after i screamed enough!! Fuck sake this is emotional manipulation.He then wiped his tears got his work bag took our son and dropped him off at school as you are reading this i am reading this and im so shocked at what happend, not that it matters but his a "cancer man ♋" man and im confused AF to what I just saw and witnessed & this is not the first time but somehow keeps getting worse, is he doing this on purpose? Has anyone had an ex like this? Is this toxic? I dont know what i did 😢