Should I be a mom?

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I am not sure if I should have kids or not. My mom was distant and eventually left. I WANT to want kids but I don't find babies all that cute and I'm not sure if I would be a good mom. My husband and I are financially stable and have been together for 10 years. Either one of us has the option to stay home with a baby. Has anyone here had experience with PPD? In my dreams, I always give birth then don't care about the baby. Does anyone else feel this? How is first time motherhood REALLY? I do want to be a parent but I don't want it to ruin my life or a child's! Any advice?

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You should talk to a counselor to get some of your childhood experiences off your chest :) it also sounds like you have dreams that reflect a fear you won't bond with baby? When a woman gives birth, she releases powerful amounts of a hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin bonds mother and baby and gives her feelings of protection and nurture. I'm sure you'll be a great mom :)

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Should you be a mom is a very personal questions.  I agree that talking to a counselor is a great way to start since it seems you have some emotional things to work through, and they can help you sort through those feelings and maybe help you recognize what you want. No matter what you decide, there is no wrong answer. If you decide that, yes you want to be a mom, that's great. If you decide that no you do not want to be a mom, that is also great. Maybe you just want to be a pet parent,  or the best aunt ever, or any number of things. Follow your heart, and best of luck to you whatever you decide.

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Thanks all. :)

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I think you'll be fine. The fact that you want to want one is a great start. You don't know til it happens and tbh I didn't know I wanted one until after my first mc but I was really young and it took over my life until I did fall pregnant. I'm far from receiving the best mum award anytime soon. But you're in an awesome position to have kids. Have a chat with a councillor or your hubby and make sure he's going to support you through the panic attacks and pnd. You're not the first to feel that way but it will be so much harder ttc when age isn't on your side. Remember as well that you don't actually have to have kids especially if you don't feel ready.
​Good luck whatever you decide

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I'd talk to a counselor about this. It sounds like you'll be a great mom, you just need to  make sure you're completely prepared for a baby, physically, mentally, and emotionally.

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I feel like you would love your child no matter what. It's different when you have your own. Plus dreams are just dreams they are usually what you fear the most . Talk to a professional about having a baby. Remember it's okay to be scared we all are when we are thinking about parenting 
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The fact that you've thought about it so much probably means you'll be a great mum, if you want to. Not all people are 'into' kids ie find them cute etc but that doesn't mean you won't love your own. Or you may decide you don't want them at all. If you're worried about pnd speak to dr now and discuss what your options will be IF that happens. Good luck.

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