You know what grinds my gears about my ex husband (in retrospect)? He really ruined every vacation we had by refusing to give any input during the planning peocess. Then, despite always including things he would like too, would whine and complain that it was a ME vacation and that i never thought of him when planning. To the point that if there was a thing i actually did specifically plan for me (like a specific museum or event day) hed ruin it by getting mad or nitpicking me until i got mad. I cant think of a single vacation where i didnt end up crying because of this. Why didnt i see how messed up he was sooner. I always explained it away. BUT, BRIGHT SIDE: now im going to plan plenty of vacations and enjoy the fact that a man isnt yelling, being mean, or moping the whole time. (Edit to add i thought of this because im wearing the broadway shirt that he got mad i took when i left... even though he has the other 3 shirts and pretty much everything else since i only took a truck and car worth of stuff since i just wanted to leave)