I am from the islands and its very much a problem here when it comes to having the “sex talk”; for me it was dont be like your mother and get pregnant in high school or you better not get pregnant and much more. This to me has caused and issue to the point where i cant even enjoy sex because my mind is everywhere with what they have drilled in me over the years. I am unable to tune into my body unless i use my hand for clitoral stimulation while having intercourse with my partner at the same time. I honestly dont want to do it that way anymore i want to be able to relax and not have to use my hand as a jumpstart ..i just feel so paranoid its like i immediately tense as we have start having sex and i know what i like but its like when he does it I’m all over so i cant enjoy. I feel like I’m stuck in my head. I dont want to have to use my hand 24/7.