I need sex help!!?

Question

Why can’t I finish? I’m turned on and everything like that i just can’t and don’t know why. When I’m by myself I can just not with my boyfriend. Anyone have an recommendations? I need help!!

Answer

Just to make sure you know and understand this, let’s go through what you should have learned in Sex-Ed 101, but more likely, not:

Since you do orgasm when you masturbate, you likely already know the answer without even realizing it. You have two organs “down there”. One for reproduction and one for pleasure. Since they are so close together, they get confused, and besides, sex-ed sucks big time.

Your vagina is for reproduction. It is your birth canal, and a safe place for your partner to ejaculate his sperm to get you pregnant. It is also an outlet for your menstrual flow. To protect you from trauma caused by pain, your vagina is largely without nerve endings, leaving it mostly with very little feeling. If it was very sensitive inside, child birth, menstruation, inserting tampons, infections and sex would be intolerable. Unfortunately sex with a male partner is mostly concentrated around your vagina with his penis pumping in and out of it.

Your clitoris is actually your primary pleasure organ. It is the equivalent of the male penis, except that you do not ejaculate and pee through it. It is a massive organ and unlike the penis that is mostly external to a man’s body, our clitoris is mostly internal to our bodies, going almost 15 cm inside your body. It forms 2 wishbone structures, the 2 fat bulbs that are going under your lips towards your vaginal entrance, and two thin long legs that goes deeper in your body. Just that little tip that you can see and feel (the glans) has more than 8,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ anywhere on a human body. In other words, it is made for stimulation, leading to pleasure and orgasms. Unlike a male partner’s penis, you do not pee through your clitoris, you do not ejaculate through your clitoris, and your clitoris does not have any glands. Your clitoris has only one job - pleasure leading to orgasms.

During normal sex, most women do not get enough stimulation to their clitoris to orgasm. Only about 20% to 30% can orgasm from just intercourse. Research has shown that it is because their clitoris is close enough to their vaginal opening so that the thrusting of the penis also stimulate their clitoris. The rest of us need extra clitoral stimulation to orgasm during sex. There are a number of ways to achieve this. It may feel unnatural in the beginning, but it will become second nature pretty quickly and it holds the keys to a great sex life.

During sex, you need to stimulate your clitoris. You can do it with your fingers, his fingers, a small clitoral vibrator, a couples vibrator or by changing how you move during sex. Giving your clitoris extra stimulation by rubbing or vibration is easier done with you on top, or him beh ind you. And it is pretty much just masturbating while he is inside you.

Changing the way you move can also give you great orgasms. With him fully inside you, tilt your pelvis so that your clitoris makes contact with his body. The rub, squeeze and grind in small movements on him. There is no rule that states that sex must be the in/out up/down that does so little for you. When you get more adept with this, you can even end the in-stroke with a sweep of your clitoris on his body, giving you back this typical in/out motion. This is also much easier done with you on top where you can control the movements. 

There is even a sex position that achieves this very efficiently called the coital alignment technique (or C.A.T.). You can google it. It is difficult to explain and it takes some practice and experimentation, and I think it is easiest done with a long term partner.
Some interesting research also showed that the following can help you orgasm with your partner:
* Keep your feet warm. Wear socks if you need to
* Use a few positions. Couples that tried at least 3 positions during a session orgasmed more than those that did not
* You need to move and not just lay still. Women who move there hips during sex orgasms consistently more than those that do not
* Foreplay do not play any role in the woman’s orgasm. Of course it is still needed to make penetration painfree and comfortable. The time spent with penis in vagina sex does determine the woman’s ability to orgasm. If it takes you 14 minutes to reach orgasm, and your partner only lasts 10 minutes, you are not going to orgasm
* You have to be mindful and present in the moment. Thinking about anything else is not helping. Being worried about how you look or smell is not helpful. Thinking about something that happened or something coming up is not helpful. Being self conscious is not helpful. Fantasizing during sex can help.
* Fully trusting your partner and giving up control is important.  During sex it is easy for your partner to injure you, so trusting him is important. And if you are worried about losing control during your orgasm, you are not going to orgasm
* Using a safe birth control method is important. If you are worried about getting pregnant, you cannot enjoy sex the way it is supposed to be

Answer

The majority of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. So, incorporate that during sex via ur hands, his hands, or a vibrator. U can also try being on top & grinding, as the clit typically gets stimulated by his pelvic area.

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