Frustrated and feeling done with this marriage

I just want to start this off by saying that I’ve tried, I do try and I’m trying. I was working a full time job up until 2 months ago, plus taking care of our son full time and our house and animals. My husband works out of town/state a lot. I’ve talked into my face is blue, I’ve cried, I’ve stayed silent, I’ve asked for therapy. He refused therapy.

I also like to do hobbies and some of them have turned out a little side money.

Recently, I’ve started a craft business where I make shirts & tumblers and some misc items in the meantime of finishing school so I can sell houses. To try and bring in some money and still take care of everything else. Plus I’m still talking care of everything at the house minus mowing. My husband occasionally does that. He came home mad today saying that I have to figure out things because he can’t do this and that I don’t help at all. Basically implied that what I do at home isn’t beneficial for anyone. It doesn’t help him. That when I get my license, he’s going to quit his job and be a stay at home dad. He thinks he can do it better but he begs me to take our son with me to get groceries because he doesn’t want to watch him. Or he gets off work and stays out till 11pm knowing I could use help or watch our son so I can do other things. If by the off chance he does watch him, he’s calling me within 30 min wanting me back home again.

We barely have sex, he only wants pleasure for himself and we do the bare minimum just to have sex and he’s done. Pretty sure he has a porn addiction & he’s been talking to people on Omegle? Idk what that even is. He’s done other things and I thought we could work past them but now I’m not so sure. He refuses to shower unless I beg him.. there’s just so much here on top of never being good enough for him even when I was working.. I feel like I’m going to explode. Then he has the nerve to basically say he can do it better.

What am I doing? But dating isn’t any better. Especially being plus sized with a baby. I just want to cry. It’s not how I imagined being married would be. Thanks for reading if you made it to the end.