No Visitors !

I think this is a touchy subject - either you’re gonna agree or disagree - and I know this causes a lot of tension and division.

I am pregnant with our first baby. And it has been a tough pregnancy in a handful of different ways. It took a toll on our relationship, my health, our relationship with his family and my family alike. Nothing detrimental please understand that.

For example, my family was fairly low key about my pregnancy simply because they’re busy with their own lives and my sister also had two miscarriages during my pregnancy so no they never took away from my joy but I insisted we be low key - or they be happy a little quieter for my sister sake. No one was mad. His family totally ghosted me - never asked how I was - because they felt as though his ex was the better woman and they’ve never really been a fan of me because I’m different - very opinionated, strong willed, no nonsense and they were convinced I was a lesbian because I had a man’s job (heavy duty truck and coach mechanic) and believe women can work and didn’t agree with their views on woman stay home husbands work.

Anyways whatever. Everyone is different it’s ok.

But with this baby being our first and with the hurdles we have overcome the last 3 years - I insisted that I wanted this to be about us (our family unit of 2 almost 3)

No visitors in hospital. No unannounced home visits. No visitors for 2 weeks.

My husband is a little apprehensive now - truthfully because of how his mom and sister reacted to this. I know my mom is bummed but she said she understands and respects us. His mom called me selfish. I don’t care tbh.

My husband still says he’s ok with it - I just find he has a hard time dealing with his family snippy comments. But I’m trying to stand my ground and not bully my husband by doing so - assuring him that our family unit is the priority and how wonderful and intimate it will be having this time of bonding just with us before we spread the love with our family members. I also said with me recovering after this technically “traumatic “ event to my body I want to deal with, heal, recover, be supported by the love of my life - not have a revolving door of people right away. And he gets it. I know he does.

Did you do this? Did you decide to have no visitors in hospital or in your home for a bit? Or are you pro visitors right away? Did you have some tension or conflict with whatever decision you made from your partner, perhaps your family? Do share.