My single mom is taking a toll on my life

Mom has been single literally my entire life. I’m 32 years old. She has horrible taste in men. Instead of being attracted to men HER OWN AGE, she is attracted to men 20 years younger, bums, with no money that use her. Or another man that had a wife and was stringing her along for years.

I now have my own apartment and job and life. And I have the guilt of knowing my mom is struggling (just as I am) she always is saying she can’t afford her bills, she hates her job, and how hard life is

And it makes me feel bad. I don’t want to see my mother struggle. Life is now 10x harder then it was 10 years ago.

She hates my boyfriend. Even tho I don’t live with her she has an issue if he’s at my house and says how much she hates him.

On holidays I always feel guilty if I spend the holidays with him in the city and knowing my mom is home all alone on holidays. She has her sisters and mom but it’s just depressing knowing I’m not there with her. Because I know one day she won’t be here.

Which seems sad and unfair. Other girls my age mothers are either married or in a relationship with someone. So there’s no guilt of going off and living their life AS AN ADULT without feeling bad for your lonely mother.

And she is saying she wants us to get a small trailer or something together one day. But that she hates my boyfriend and I will have him there.

And it’s actually really depressing. I can’t live my life as an adult and plan a future with my boyfriend or future husband. And plan on getting our own home together.

No I have to worry about my 53 year old mother. And feel like I have to plan a future with HER and worry about HER instead of finding my own path on life

She didn’t have the same struggle. Her parents were married all of her life. She didn’t have to live her adult life worrying about her mother. My grandma had my grandfather all of my moms life.

It just feels like I can’t live like other women my age. They don’t have to worry about their mom, and her struggling all on her own in this economy. Their mothers are capable of finding a man in their age group with a job and not 35 year old broke weed dealers that are just using her…..

What would you do? It’s so pathetic seeing other women or my cousins who can live their lives FREELY without their mother planning on getting a house with them because they can’t afford to live on their own without struggling

I love her more then anything. I’m her only child. It just feels not normal to have to base your adult life around planning a future with my mother. Instead of my own life with my own husband and possibly kids of my own.

I just wish she could find a man her age with a job and house of his own. So I don’t have to worry about her anymore 😔

She actually encourages me to spend holidays with him and go out and do things. But I just worry about her and hate the guilt of picturing my mom all alone on Christmas morning or New Year’s eve. So stressful. Anyone else have a single mom? What would you do?