It’s always about men,I’m going to explode!

I’m currently in my ✨healing girl✨ era. I’m going to therapy, trying to focus on myself, be kinder to myself and others, be a girls girls, immerse myself in hobbies, be more social, those kinds of things.

So I recently joined a fb group for girls trying to make friends in the city, thought it was a cute idea and wanted to put myself out there therefore responded to a few posts and met a few people.

Most of the people I’ve met are lovely lovely people…….but their lives revolve around men🫠 The men they’re seeing, the men they wanna see, the validation, the want, the need to be with and around men and the drama that comes with dating essentially. Don’t get me wrong, I’m straight, I’m all for the tea around men but this is the ONLY topic they can bring into a conversation and it’s exhausting. If I said we couldn’t talk about men the table would be crickets🥲

I’m not currently dating (25f), I’ve never had a bf, I’ve been in 1 situationship through uni that was 4 years of mental abuse, I’m not too interested in dating, I want to be a certain level of healed, aware and interested before I actually get back into the dating world so it’s the lowest of low priorities. I’m already emotionally exhausted with life in general because I have a lot going on and the emotional exhaustion is making me less tolerant of male centred conversation. These people do ask how I’m doing in life but you can tell it’s only because they know they’re doing all the talking. I’m not comfortable enough with them to give an honest answer on how life is going, I’m just a listener essentially in all of this and it’s just becoming too much for me because life is happening and all they want to focus on is what man they’ve found something to complain about? I’ve been out clubbing with one of the girls 3 times and every time, she would stand there bored because a man hadn’t looked her way and if a man did, it was the only thing she’s want to talk about.

It’s making me lose faith in the world of female friendships, 90% of the girls posting in the fb group will start with telling you they’re going through a fresh break up and it makes me so weary because I can’t handle talking about men, their actions or their intentions, I just don’t care. I’m trying to focus on building new friendships, doing things I’ve never done before, trying things I’ve never tried and just being genuinely happy in life by myself and get to know myself before I add a man into the mix, but apparently adding a friend to the mix is harder than hoped. I literally want to yell at them all to stand tf up and appreciate being single because men are here to compliment our lives not complete them.

I don’t know how to proceed, how do you tell women who basically need male attention and companionship to survive to just stop? I don’t want to cut them off but I feel like it might have to be that. They’re lowkey bringing out an insecurity that I’m odd for not caring THIS much about having a man in my life and in turn just makes me resist men more. There’s just never anything positive in these conversations either which just all drain me on top of me already being drained.

I just want friends that drink our water, go do cute random shit like stand up paddle boarding in a lake and mind our business but it’s becoming so mentally taxing🥲

I hope this didn’t come off as some kind of hate speech, I’m just really frustrated. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting someone and wanting companionship, I’m just exhausted. And I have autism (I’m very normal facing(high functioning))so navigating social situations in general takes up more brainpower than the norm so this is added pressure. I’m also awful with my words so sorry if this came out really bad😭