Am I at fault?

Ive been dating this guy for over 7 months now, for the last 3 months theres been a lot of arguing and endless discussions regarding to what we want in our futureand possible marriage. We Have established that we are two very different people, I am more on the emotional side and he only talks logically. Lately I feel like im not appreciated or valued. I keep asking for him to make more of an effort with me. Instead he projects the blame to me but rather does it in the way to explain effort hasnt been made because we dont have time for each other. He likes doing things on the weekends but i am busy with family commitments. Just to add content i had my cousins wedding and if you know what south asains weddings like its all hands on deck. However i visited him every week after work even twice a week. So i shouldbe appreciated of that whereby i come to him and sit at his house. Again, he reiterates he isnt blaming me, also considering he visits his parents which is in another country. And he stays for min of 4 weeks. So i get we limit on time However he has been out of the country for 4 months out of the 7 months we have been together. I feel as though i am making more of the effort by seeing him every week after work but he wont take a day off from work to spend time with me because he only uses his annual leave for going abroad. He would not sacrifice one day off for me. I called him selfish for not being able to meet me half way and book time off. He flipped and argued against me and said he is not being selfish if it is something that depresses him if he doesnt use his leave to leave the country. On top of that, his feelings towards me is only at "like" level where i have declared i love him. Lately i dont think i do. He says he is flying back to his parents again at the beginning of November after coming back last week. He says he would talk to his parents about me but i said if you don't love me and only we come to an agreement (whole other argument of how he wants to live his married life - aka, wants to be a millionaire, big house, me to work not be a house wife etc) then his feelings would develop deeper. Which doesnt make sense to me if manipulation isrequired first for me to agree to his adjustmentsof his marriage and in a matter of couple of weeks he will love me? It doesnt make sense. Am i being stupid? I wanted for this guy to show me affection and romance and i got nothing. He is a type of giy who needs time to marinated his feelings. It all seems so controlling. Am i wasting my time?