how to let a friend know about my disinterest in the party/clubbing scene now?

i’ve been 21 for almost a year now. i was single at that moment and recently i’ve started talking to a man. now a friend has turned 21 and wants to go out clubbing and partying 1-2 nights a week, sometimes on weekdays. i’ve never been particularly fond of clubbing because something always bad has to ruin the night. the guy i’m talking to is christian (i am catholic) but he’s more of a traditional man but not in a controlling way. we are starting to get more serious and possibly develop into an exclusive relationship, and i know that it would probably make him feel uncomfortable if i went out to the club. for the record, it is NOT something i’ve ever needed to do and is not a big sacrifice for me to make in order for us to be exclusive. i would also not be comfortable with him being in that environment either. my father is also a recovering alcoholic of over 30 years and he has my location on for my safety and i never want to make him feel uncomfortable or worried about me either. i tried to inch this idea to her through my dads concerns and she told me to just leave my phone at home. recently, after visiting the house decorations in the neighborhood for halloween, i fell asleep in the backseat and her and her boyfriend were quietly driving to the club without my knowledge and thought i would have no choice but to agree to go because we were already there. luckily, there was no parking. besides that, i have a feeling if i told her about my main reasons (i am not interested in that type of fun anymore and i want to respect my potential partners boundaries) that she would result to calling him controlling or insecure or pressure me into making him come along so he can see that it’s “safe.” i really cherish our friendship outside of her ideas on clubbing but that’s a problem area. i’m not sure if other people would label the guy as controlling or insecure?