Porn Husband Upset?
Would you be disappointed if your husband watches porn because the two of you haven't been intimate in a few weeks?
Context: I have two children under three. We each work full time jobs & different schedules. Outside of my full time career I've recently started a small business that's taking up a lot of my previous free time. This new business comes with a lot of learning curves/ stress - which my husband is very understanding & supportive of. However I just haven't been the mindset to be physically intimate bc of my increased stress load
My husband says he watched porn once to relieve himself. I felt disappointed bc I feel like it's lusting after random women. It seems harmless to do but I feel like it could later be a gateway - "oh I was horney so had sex with a random girl in a bathroom it didn't mean anything tho - okay it's okay.." I feel like that's what porn is through a screen..
so I don't care to pretend like porn is harmless.. I've taken sexy pictures & sent them to him before .. why not use that material?
The discovery really made me feel insecure.. (we been together for 9 years however he is my only sexually partner he says he enjoys our intimate time but I'm not always confident in that bc I have begin recently diagnosed with plevic floor dysfunction & learned this is why I have had pain with intercourse for years and couldn't do certain positions. So this is why I'm insecure bout our sex life bc he has had sex with other women before me & know how it could/should be - while I was virgin when we met)
I do trust deep down if he had a serious problem he would be honest and let me know.. he does affirm that he loves me, even tho he watched porn - he was sorry, he understands why it hurt my feelings, & he doesn't ever want me to feel like I'm not enough for him..
I never watch porn. I think it would be better if it were something we did together but it's seems secretive & shady learn after having to ask.. I know he could have lied so I appreciate the honesty however I still don't like him doing it..
Would you be upset? If you've voice your dislike about him watching porn previously and discovered he watched only bc you both haven't been intimate?
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