Is it me? Or the situation ?

So my bf and I been together over 6+ years, he’s more on the pessimistic side, and I’m more on the optimistic side yet we are realistic in different ways . He’s not really open to do the things I enjoy an often a downer when I bring him around my people, so sadly I’ve been sacrificing a lot . Me on the other hand, I’m laid back and go with the flow. I love his people but sadly the main one that’s hard to like, is his mother. She has many physical limitations which is not the problem at all, I’m always willing to help. But it’s kind of difficult when someone is often very negative, resistant while assisting an constantly talks shit, an has a sense of entitlement. Even when working in the healthcare field I never enjoyed clients like that. So it’s not personal at all. Also the thing with this is, my man often doesn’t want to be the one to assist her, but he gets upset when he hears others complain about how difficult she is. He has no patience and this women requires a lot. She is also very demanding yet as I stated before requires much assistance, an a lot of the time can be rude, judgmental and embarrassing. What a combo right, an I wish I was making it up.

So I mention that I hope she is easy going and cooperative today, especially since I’m expected to pick her up. He starts yellin how I’m so positive about everything, except his mother. He claims that Im always am negative when it comes to her. An yells at me to give her a chance. Yet It’s hard to be positive towards someone you’ve mainly have negative experiences with. She recently started callin me by my name and not his ex(who is not a good person). My boyfriend used to feel as if I shouldn’t get upset about it. So there are times I used to just wait in the car because I simply couldn’t deal with her energy an the rollercoaster. Which usually causes him to get upset and comment an poke fun on how I don’t like his mother. Which by the way I never show it. But it’s hard to to go into a situation positively when ya know how it’s gonna go. My bf barely even gives my people a chance. Yet he expects me to act happy and excited to not only be around this women, but help her throughout the entire night and enjoy it.

I often feel like I’m damned if I do damned if I don’t. I can easily say I’m not gonna go, but it disrupts my household. Chances are he probably won’t go if I don’t because truthfully he doesn’t want to do all that work, and after being with her 15 minutes he’s annoyed, I’m just not allowed to be annoyed . I don’t have my parents , and sometimes I feel sad cuz of grief wit a combination of knowin this is what I have to deal with.I love him but havin a man that is not supportive doesn’t help. What would yall do? Am I buggin like he makes it seem?