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Im 21, just recently married, and having a baby. My husband and I too were planning a wedding, finding a house to buy, and still working full time at our jobs. I still lived with my parents too. I understand where youre coming from because the pressure, stress, worry, anxiety... it's unreal. However, I am a believer in Jesus Christ and he took my worry, threw it away, and gave me peace. Idk where you stand, but worry will not solve anything. Rely on Jesus and communicate with your fiancé. He is not the bad guy. He's equally as nervous. Everything in the end will turn out beautiful. Count the blessings!
I don’t know what’s wrong with me
I’m getting married in like 3 weeks, my fiancé and I just got our rented house and we are moving furniture in with his brothers help currently. I’m leaving my home, I have so many worries about our marriage because my fiancé is sometimes co dependent with his mother who’s pretty toxic. I know every relationship has issues, I have a wonderful relationship and this is just something we have to work at. I am so stressed out about the wedding, moving (I’ve never moved before) and just how to deal with all these issues. I’ve never moved before ever, always lived with my parents and my aunt and brother until now. I’m trying to find another job because the wedding has been more expensive than I anticipated. I know I’m obviously more stressed than usual, but dang why am I questioning everything my fiancé does? He doesn’t even deserve that. It just feels like he doesn’t care anymore but I know he does. I feel so anxious all the time, the last three nights I’ve had panic attacks and it’s always been late at night so I can’t call anyone and I just have to cry myself to sleep at night. I’m holding off on starting birth control because I’m so scared about the possibility of anxiety and depression as a side effect and I can’t handle anymore of that. Yes I do think being stressed in my situation would be normal, but dang why can’t I even function? I don’t know what to do. I feel so lonely and it feels like I’m spiraling out of control.
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Maybe you guys are moving too fast. Why don’t you find a calm day to sit down with your fiancée & talk about things? Talk about everything that’s stressing you & see if it helps. His reaction should tell you whether it’s just the moment, or if you guys really do need to slow it down more. You could bump out the wedding, or if that’s not an option, then you could focus on moving in together AFTER you guys are married. Also, remember that leaving your “safety bubble” so to speak, is always a little scary. You have to step out of your comfort zone to grow, BUT if you’re truly freaking out about all this, then maybe you really do need to do some reevaluation cause getting married & starting a life with the one you love, the one who is supposed to be your partner in all things, should not feel like stepping off the edge of a cliff. If it feels that way, then it’s a pretty clear sign that things aren’t right. Follow your heart & talk to your man & also probably to other people you trust. It’ll be okay, but don’t bottle things up, it’s not healthy. And also remember that if you come to realize you’re actually not okay with committing, that’s wayyyyy better than figuring that out after you’re already married & live together & share names etc. the world will not end if he’s not the one, it might feel like that for a short while, but you’ll feel so much more at peace when you’re actually with the one who is meant for you. Good luck.
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